I don’t know about you, but there have been several periods of time in my life where I was on a “bad boy” (aka f***boy) streak. I constantly chased after guys I knew were wrong for me but went for them shamelessly anyways. I knew what the end result would be, how they would treat me along the way, the fact that they only wanted one thing out of me, that they would be terrible communicators, and were essentially unintelligent.
Many people I know (most who identify as women) go through this same experience at least once (if not, more) in their lives for several different reasons. And what’s worse is that nice guys always question why girls always go for these types of guys, when the ones worth fighting for are standing right in front of them with arms wide open. Well, there actually are some reasons why we go for the guys we KNOW are not worth our time.
The alpha f***boy has stronger sperm.
The guys who are seemingly jerks are nature’s way of telling us they have the genetics to act as fierce competition in the game of survival. This has to do with the whole ‘survival of the fittest’ notion.
We tend to keep touching the flame repeatedly no matter how many times we’ve been burned.
It’s almost a habitual characteristic to keep going after the ones we are attracted to, even if we know it has never worked out in our favor before. Somehow we just can’t change our preferences to appreciate the nice guy who keeps trying to win us over and is probably worth it.
I don’t know a single woman who doesn’t enjoy hot fiery sex with the baddest alpha male, especially in this generation where access to this type of thing is within the palm of our hands. The nice guy just doesn’t give off the vibe that he can provide us with amazing sex.
Women think they can change the “bad boy” into a “good guy”
Ever hear the quote, “Every girl wants a bad boy that will be good just for her”? Well, it’s true. Women (typically younger women) have this tendency to believe that if we show him what a real relationship is like, we can change this bad boy into husband material. The problem is it rarely happens. Old habits die hard and if the man doesn’t want to change, you probably won’t convince him to, no matter how much of a “good girl” you are.
The grass is always greener on the other side.
We always want what we can’t have. Women are nurturing by nature and this ties in closely with the previous point because we try our best to change the bad boy into a good boy. But we can’t fix someone who doesn’t want to be fixed.
The bad boy always seems more attractive in the beginning until you get played and are left alone wondering what went wrong. But you have to get played a few times before you can really dominate the game. It takes a few episodes of going for the typical douchebag before realizing that maybe the nice guy isn’t so bad after all. Unfortunately, some of us have to learn the hard way before we realize whom our real prince charming is… and it’s probably not the hot six-pack-abs, appearance-obsessed, party-going guy with the flirty eyes we keep giving the green light to.